I don't think anyone is planning for a disappointing or traumatic birth. But did you know that lack of parent preparation could cause more negative birth experiences? Pressure from care givers, friends' "horror stories," and our own previous birth experiences can all instill fear about labor and birth, and that fear alone often sets us up for harder labors.
No wonder so many parents wind up home with a tiny human feeling inadequate, bullied, confused, depressed or disconnected from their own baby!
I can relate. After my first two very-opposite births, I can tell you I've experienced the obvious difference a quality childbirth prep program can make! Before I had my first baby, I dutifully attended my hospital's free birth class and consulted popular mainstream books and websites. What I didn't realize is that I was basically just being prepped to mold myself to the hospital's policies and procedures--not to be able to discern what routines may or may not be best in my individual circumstance. In the end we did have various complications that were likely preventable, and I went home feeling somehow robbed as a mother.
Thankfully the next time around, I paid for an independent birth class that made me realize I had many misconceptions about birth and my options! This time, even though it was the hardest work I had ever done, I came away feeling empowered and over-all capable as a mother.
Now, as a certified Gentlebirth Instructor, I am excited to pass on to you the things I learned that made the difference!